The Importance of Courtship

A successful Marriage is created by "two people", a Man and woman who love each other and are prepared to work hard to preserve and protect their Marriage.The key word here is, two people, it takes two people to make a Marriage work. No man or woman can love an unwilling spouse enough to make him/her to commit. The love, commitment, loyalty,fidelity etc must be given willingly.
Courtship is not the same thing as Marriage, no matter how long the courtship lasts. The sole reason or aim for courting with your partner is to find out how compatible you are with the person you are dating, and if you find out that the two of you are incompatible, you must break the relationship. The fact that courtship ends in Marriage does not necesarily mean that it was successful.
A courtship is successful if you find out that you are compatible and marry each other, or you find out that you are incompatible and you break the relationship thereby freeing each other to continue the search for the right life partner.
If during courtship, a couple discovers that they are incompatible and one partner cajoles the other person not to break up the relationship or one person decides to manage the other person, it will be extremely difficult for them to have a good Marriage.
Marriage will not erase the incompatibility rather it will magnify it. The same reason why courtship should have ended is the same reason why the Marriage will end. It is always better to have a broken courtship than a broken marriage. Before Marriage you have to accept the other person for whom he/she is and if you honestly have to change the person before you can have a good Marriage, then he/she is not right for you. Also the fact that the other person's family likes you does not mean that you are marrying members of his/her family. If his/her family loves you but the person does not, that Marriage cannot work.